Looking Forward To The End

We shout curse words at our flat screen tv, we argue with our best friends, we post negative messages online...Please, let it end so we can get along again!

Most of us who vote, and others who unfortunately don't care to vote, are very edgy right now.  

Screaming curse words at their flat screen tv's, arguing openly with their friends about who won this or who lost that, and posting messages online cheering on their favorite contenders and bashing their favorite's opponents.

No, I'm not referring to the Cardinals as they fight for 12 in 12, or to the Rams who finally have a chance for a winning season.

What I'm talking about is the presidential election season featuring the openly agressive campaigns between President Obama and Governor Romney and a cast of millions who have chosen sides and dug their heels into the ground.

This is a time when long time friends have become your enemies with any type of gesture or word against your chosen candidate.

It's clearly Republicans versus Democrats.  It's conservatives versus liberals. It's open warfare and it's not pretty, not effective and it changes no one's mind in any way, shape or form.

One simply needs to read the political blogs in our own O'Fallon Patch to understand what I am saying.  It's political trash talk at it's best, and that's bad. 

Now that the election is three weeks away the intensity of the heat is in full swing, and sadly, most of it is negative.

Neither candidate nor party ever detail what they will do when elected, only what the other candidate or party cannot do or hasn't done. A campaign of hate and negativity from the top filters down througout the country. We are in verbals wars with our friends and our neighbors.  It's wrong.

I am not tired of the presidential issues that are at hand and I am happy that we can all go to the polls and make our individual choice for president on November 6th. 

What has worn me out mentally and emotionally is what I have experienced personally during this whole year - the division and a lot of hate among my friends and my Facebook friends.  

It goes without question that politics can bring out the worst in some people.  I have seen that in personal conversations with my friends and with the vast negativity I see and no longer read or pay attention to on my Facebook page.

A recent post on Facebook read, "I hope I still like all of my friends after election season."  I hope so too. I'm not sure.

This comical post is much more than humorous, it is true.  Some people can be the best of friends, but as soon as their political beliefs are aired with no intention to have a positive and open discussion, it all goes down hill. Lifetime buddies are now at each other's throats.  

In my case, an old college girlfriend from my distant past will no longer communicate with me and I will not communicate with her. Why?  Because I expressed concerns over her political stance and she did the same with me. Camelot ends before it even started again.

November 6th can't come soon enough.

Either President Obama will remain as president or Governor Romney will become our president.

We need to get back to focusing clearly on the issues that affect all of us.

Whether whoever wins the election does what they've been promising they will do to help our country is another story.  Very seldom do these promises become reality. I hope they do, but I doubt it.

The anger between both parties, the back stabbing and anger is for the birds.

We make presidential elections more and more like the Super Bowl, the World Series, the NBA  Championship and the Stanley Cup playoffs every year.

Can't we just get along?

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Rich Pope October 17, 2012 at 12:23 AM
Jim, Great post. But I have recently read in the news that talk of rioting if President Obama looses has reached an all-time high on Twitter. I don't know if people are just talking smack, or if they are actually planning something. What I guess I'm saying is that maybe when the election is officially over it really won't be over.
Jim Frain October 17, 2012 at 03:23 AM
Thanks Orme...I have the same concern that you do as to what will happen when this election is over. My concern is on both sides of this political fight that is taking place between both parties and the trickle down effect that it has had with our citizens across the country. I read and hear down deep anger and hate from the right and the left and then the far right and the far left. In most years, when the election was over, it was over and the losing side would regroup and prepare for the next election. Things are different now, at least I believe that they are.
Rich Pope October 17, 2012 at 03:35 AM
Jim, I just finished watching the second presidential debate. It was too hostile. The worst part was that each candidate responded to the questions with talking points instead of answers. For example, one question offered was a simple "yes" or "no" question. However the answers given evaded the question. The moderator tried to pull each candidate back to the original theme of the question but neither candidate would follow. With the fall of the Roman Empire came The Dark Ages. We might not return to burning people for being "witches", but where we are headed might be just as scary.
Steve Pokin October 17, 2012 at 03:57 AM
I'm reading a book on the history of the press in America. It focuses on the time of our Founding Fathers. What strikes me most is the skulduggery involved in political campaigns THEN. It was nasty and, in some ways, nastier than today in large part because there was no point in owning a newspaper if you didn't use it to EXCLUSIVELY express your political views and to support your candidates and your party. The notion of trying to be objective would have been scoffed at. When Thomas Jefferson ran for president the opposing camp and their newspapers started the rather nasty rumor ... which was hard to rebut at a time when news traveled slowly ... that Jefferson was not a viable candidate because he happened to be dead. What's different today, as Jim notes, is our instant connectivity and our instant ability to express our political views to the world on FB and to trash the views of our friends. I came close last week to de-friending a FB friend who referred to Joe Biden as a "walking **** with ears." I thought better of it, reminding myself that vitriol happens in presidential elections, and that I should be careful of my own words on FB because one man's impassioned, spot-on FB post is another man's example of a wild rant.
Rich Pope October 17, 2012 at 07:28 AM
Steve, that sounds like an interesting book. The "trick" people use today is that they make a false statement to discredit their opponent, then when the "fact-checkers" bring-up the truth, the person who made the false claim says, "I misspoke" or something to that effect but the damage is already done. Just like a person who empties a feather pillow in the wind cannot run and retrieve all the feathers, a person who speaks loosely cannot get the words back.
Jim Frain October 17, 2012 at 04:36 PM
Thanks Steve and Orme...Steve, your example of one man's impassioned FB post is another man's example of a wild rant and Orme, your image of emptying a feather pillow in the wind is similar to speaking loosely without the ability to get the words back are both spot on. It is my honor to read your thoughts.
Catherine Sansone October 17, 2012 at 10:58 PM
Good Article Jim, i have been thinking that I like the way we have relect every 4 year's i dont care if i love them or not. I think its good that we put our leaders through a bit of hell every 4 year's so they cant just walk all over us like in these countries where they have the same person for too many year's. I think this fire is what makes our country great!! I dont want to make it easy for anyone who is going to be my leader. :) You know who im voting for President Barack Obama however it wont hurt that we hold him accountable and make him recommitt and not get laxed. He needs to finish what he started and make sure he does right by us ALL.
Catherine Sansone October 17, 2012 at 11:01 PM
And in regards to your specific issue. I agree with you Jim it is not fun losing and or dropping friends in regards to our personal feelings about our Politics. I am surrounded by Repulicans in my family and i would say a majority of my friends. it is frustrating however i have decided to over look this and love them anyway. :)
Jim Frain October 18, 2012 at 12:14 AM
Thanks Cat...I agree that every four years the candidates for the presidency, and for the senate and the house too should go through some intense scrutiny...If they can't hold up during the primaries and then the marathon run for the office they seek, they could never handle the high office they are reaching for. You are correct too in deciding to continue to love your family and friends who are opposed to your political feelings. Thanks for your comments....we agree on many things.
Steve Halstead October 18, 2012 at 12:47 PM
We had a civil war many years ago that divided our nation. Friends killing former friends, citizens killing other citizens. We survived as a nation, the scar on our society lasted many years after the end of that war. Time does heal the wounds, but the scar remains. There is alot of un-civil passion from many expressing their beliefs for our society, and how it should be governed. Family, friends, associates, media, all square off for rounds 1 through 10, retreating to their corner preparing for the next round. Our future is something worth fighting for, hate the other's point of view, don't hate the individual who expresses the view......it's part of our freedom. Un-civil comments can certainly scar a friendship, and we should all make an effort to heal the wound. In the end, it's better than another civil war fighting each other in the street. City police, and State National Guards are preparing for post election riots based on the potential outcome as viewed by some very radical un-civil citizens. My golf buddies agree.....no politics on the course! We enjoy being together.
Jim Frain October 18, 2012 at 01:53 PM
Thanks for your comments Steve...We have been friends for over 30 years and we will remain good friends for at least 30 more years...how about 40 years more?....Will we always agree with each other? No. Will we always be good friends? Yes.
Mike Nunnery October 19, 2012 at 06:32 PM
Government of the people, by the people and for the people! Not a government created by the media and the talk show hosts and every pundit under the sun. Jim and I agree on so much more than we disagree and when we do we usually end up at the same place anyway - getting a cup of coffee! Let Freedom Ring - VOTE!
Jim Frain October 19, 2012 at 07:57 PM
Exactly right Mike....Of, By and For the People.....Freedom does ring when we VOTE.
Jim Frain April 05, 2013 at 08:50 PM
I just re-read an old blog that I wrote in the O'Fallon Patch in October of last year....I called it "Looking Forward to the End" and it focused on political campaigns, etc., It's nice to know that our recent O'Fallon election is over, the voters who cared to vote cast their vote for Mayor and City Council and the two Propositions have spoken and the decisions of these votes have been finalized. We have a wonderful history here in O'Fallon...The present is good and the future will be even better...Let's all get together and support our neighbors, our friends, our city and our elected officials. We're In This Together...We will make it work.
Jordan Lanham April 05, 2013 at 09:51 PM
Thanks for the positive note Jim!
Mr. Frain: Aren't you the "Pot Calling the Kettle Black?" Mr. Frain you should practice as you preach! You have two different set of standards and are hypocritical of any one that does not agree with your thought and convictions.


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